Let’s be honest — every day of a marriage is not going to be “happily ever after.” Married couples should know that it’s okay to disagree. As well as arguing, but there needs to be a resolution. It’s not just about what you want anymore, you and your other half need to make a fair compromise.
Tom Meitner, Relevant Magazine writer, shares an article that details a 6-step approach to resolving conflicts positively.
1. Remember you are both a team
In the heat of an argument, it’s easy to forget that both of you are playing the same team. Ephesians 5:21 says, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” So often it’s about choosing to humble yourself before your spouse in order to come to a compromise.
2. Confront the conflict
With today’s technology, it’s easy to mentally shut down during a conflict, but the problem does not leave. Communication is necessary to resolution a conflict. Some people need time away from their spouse to cool off, but the sun shouldn’t go down on your anger. Communication is key after an argument, so don’t run away.
3. Avoid outbursts
In order to resolve a problem, both of you have to stay calm. Emotional outbursts will not help the problem. If you tend to get emotional during arguments, you might need some time away to cool off.