Are You Being Manipulated?
Believe it or not, one of the most subtle forms of witchcraft has always been a type of control that people use called manipulation. Manipulation can cause it’s victims to act almost as if they are under a spell, making them do things they ordinarily wouldn’t. It can be seen in relationships that are abusive or controlling, it is seen in the workplace between coworkers attempting to gain control or bosses that are exerting their power over employees. Manipulation can come in many forms, and there is real spiritual implications and components behind it. Here are 10 signs that you or someone you know is being manipulated by someone else.
1. The Manipulator May Use Physical Aggression To Try To Intimidate You.
It is true that in many abusive relationships physical aggression may be used to try and co-hearse someone into doing what they want. This is a commonly seen form of manipulation. Whether it is using their physical stature, shouting and yelling, or overall aggressive actions these are all attributes a manipulator may use to intimidate their victims.
2. A Manipulator May Try To Make You Feel Bad Or Guilty Even When You Have Done Nothing Wrong
This can happen while at work, in relationships, between family members, and in just about every facet of life. We have all been in the situation where someone has tried to make us feel guilty when we have done absolutely nothing to them. This is also a very common tactic of a manipulator. The case may be that the controlling person will try to make you feel bad about the way they treat them when in reality it is the opposite that is true.
3. A Manipulator Is Always Suspiciously Questioning Your Motives
A person who manipulates others will tend to always question your motives, or be suspicious of everything you do. Usually, the reason behind this is because their own motives are ulterior and their own intentions are not pure. Similar to a tactic known as reverse-psychology, the manipulator can even have the victim checking and double checking their own motivations. This can fool the victim into making them feel like the manipulator is actually the victim in this scenario. If they can successfully do this undetected, it can give even more power to exert spiritual and emotional control over someone.
4. The Manipulator Is Never Completely Satisfied
Another thing a manipulator will try to do is make you feel like you are not fully living up to their expectations. This is often seen with parents and their kids. This is a way to try and make the victim feel like they are in debt to, or owe the manipulator something. This can make a victim of manipulation feel obligated to continuously try to satisfy the manipulator. This tactic of manipulation is a cycle of control to make you feel like you are not good enough, or working hard enough and overall inferior in your position.
5. A Manipulator Uses Subtle Insults And Name Calling
Another common strategy the manipulator often uses is degrading remarks, insulting comments, and name calling. This type of abuse is usually a way to try and label someone, ultimately to embarrass or disrespect their victim. This may make the manipulator feel better about themselves by putting someone else down or making them feel inferior.
6. The Manipulator Is Not Happy Unless They Get Their Own Way
In most controlling relationships the manipulator will give the impression that it is either “my way or the highway.” They tend to jockey for position in relationships, rather than allowing their relationships to be mutually beneficial. In some cases, they may allow their victim to get their way in minor cases but only so that when it comes to the major decisions the victim doesn’t put up much of a fight.
7. The Manipulator Imposes Their Will In Every Situation
The ultimate goal of a manipulating person is that in any meaningful situation, the manipulator wants their will to be done- so they are always looking for ways to impose it. In a meeting, they may try to impose their will by being the loudest in the room. In a relationship, they may try to impose their will by giving you the silent treatment. There are many different ways they may use but the ultimate goal is always the same.
8. Manipulators Will Never Let You Prove Your Point Especially If You Disagree With Them
If a manipulator can sense they may lose an argument, you can bet they will find a way to shut any form of communication down. Even if there may be a better solution, if you disagree with a manipulator it is likely that is where the conversation will end. A manipulator cannot allow you to express your reasoning or prove your point, that might allow someone other than them to get credit. They may twist things around that you say, or pick up on some minor point and try to derail the discussion. Anything they can do to maintain their position of power, they will do.
9. A Manipulator May Walk Away From Responsibility, Or Threaten To End A Relationship
One tactic many manipulators use is to walk away from their responsibilities at the worst possible time. Usually, this strategy is used as a form of blackmail in a relationship or at work because as the going gets tough a manipulator might get going. In reality, this is just another ploy to get their way and make the people around them feel like they need them more than they really do. A victim of this strategy might be willing to agree to just about anything at the point when the work is piled up, the deadline is getting closer, or the responsibilities are just too much to handle.
These are just a few of the common tactics and signs that you or someone you know is being manipulated. It can rear its ugly head in a variety of situations and circumstances, and sometimes it can be much too subtle to even notice but that is because there is a spirit behind most manipulative people and they don’t even know it. If you feel like someone is dealing with this the best way to confront it is always through prayer because as Ephesians 6:12 says “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”