Instead Of Passing Judgement, Store Clerk Does Something Amazing For This Child
Sandra De Jong Borchers, her son, and her mother took a trip to their local Home Depot. During outings, Sandra already knows that her son gets stressed just by being around other people. Her son suffers from autism, sensory processing disorder, ADHD, and pains in his legs that drive him to insanity when in public.
Sandra is used to the judgmental looks and the mean comments some people say to her about her child. This time, however, it was different…
“To the lady at Home Depot. I didn’t know you and you didn’t know me. I was there with my 4-year-old son, my dog, and my mom trying to pick a new paint scheme for my home. What you saw was my son have a full meltdown. He was overstimulated today and began hitting himself in the head, screaming, punching me, and pulling on my shirt while crying. What I saw was a kind smile from you. Not one of judgment but of acceptance. See my son does this frequently and my skin has grown quite thick to the comments of ‘control your child’ ‘this isn’t a place for kids like him’ amongst many other judgments on my parenting skills. Or I will sometimes get the uncomfortable smile with the look of judgment. My son then went with my mom to calm down by looking at the toilets. It is really the only thing that calms his body and mind in that store as he loves toilets. When he returned you gave him a dollar to spend on ice cream at McDonalds. I apologized for his behavior and you said an apology was not necessary. What you didn’t know at the time was my child has autism, sensory processing disorder, ADHD, and constant pain in his legs. (Continued Below)
There was no way for you to know this by just looking at him. He looks like any other kid you might see at a store. He struggles with outings and it can be quite stressful for him and for myself. What you didn’t see was as you walked away was I began to cry. My thick skin had been broken through by the sheer kindness and compassion of a complete stranger. You may not remember us but I for sure will remember you! Thank you for being a kind human being. You really never do know how the little things you do or say can change a persons day around. Oh and yes we did take him for that ice cream and he enjoyed every single lick of it. Thank you for being you and allowing my son to be himself.”