He Tried To Mold Her Into Something She Wasn’t – How She Took Back Her Confidence!
“I did everything I could to be what you wanted. I did everything you told me to do. It still wasn’t good enough. You left me for a younger prettier girl.”
After Brittaney Lynn Shane’s boyfriend left her for a younger girl, she was left heartbroken. At first, Brittaney blamed herself for having lost the “love” of her life, like many women do.
The thing is, it was her boyfriend that didn’t know how to appreciate what he had in front of him. He would often nitpick the smallest details about her, like the length of her hair, it’s color, and how he didn’t her stretch marks. He tried to dictate her appearance, and she would always try her best to meet his standards. Until sadly, she just couldn’t keep up with the impossible standards of his.
Having realized that she wasn’t the one at fault, she decided to write him a letter. One powerful enough to give anyone a new perspective in their relationships:
“You always told me I didn’t look good with long hair and that you preferred girls with short hair.”
“So I kept my hair cut above my shoulders at all times.”
“You laughed at me and told me I looked ridiculous when I dyed my hair red when we were together. So a week later I dyed it back blonde.”
“You would always point out if I was wearing too much makeup. (Winged eyeliner and mascara most of the time) So I just stopped wearing it.”
“You pointed out my stretch marks every chance you got. So I did my best to keep them hidden.”
“You pointed out every time I looked like I had gained weight. So I started eating less every day. You pointed out every single flaw I had. So I lost every bit of confidence I had.
I did everything I could to be what you wanted. I did everything you told me to do. It still wasn’t good enough. You left me for a younger prettier girl. Someone you could mold and shape into what you wanted. Like you tried to do with me. And up until a few months ago I blamed myself for everything that happened. You blamed me too.
But finally I started to see the truth.”
You weren’t out of my league. I was out of yours. I wasn’t the one who wasn’t good enough for you.
You were the one who wasn’t good enough for me. You couldn’t accept me for who I was. When I took you the way you were.
And I’ve finally gotten my confidence back. I finally see myself looking back at me when I look in the mirror. It’s so hard for me to come out about this and admit that I became so vulnerable because of one guy. Something I always said would never happen. It’s humiliating to even think about how low I got. But what gives me the guts to come out about this is the fact that I overcame it and I’m finally back to who I really am.”
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