Each Mother Shares A Heartbreaking Story Of Their ‘Rainbow Babies’
The term ‘Rainbow Baby’ refers to a baby that comes after a miscarriage, stillbirth, or any other type of infant loss. Rainbow babies, just like rainbows, come after the emotional storm has passed.
GoodHouskeeping asked mothers to express some deep thought on the subject, what they said about their rainbow babies will leave you in tears!
“In February 2015, we found out we were expecting our second baby — and in March we lost our baby. I was devastated. I knew I was miscarrying but had a tiny bit of hope (or was it denial?) in my head until the doctor called to confirm what I hoped wasn’t true. Nothing I did caused the miscarriage, I couldn’t have prevented it, she said. Then her voice turned into that teacher from Charlie Brown, “wah, wah wah wah wah.” I melted into my bed, sobbing. How would I carry on? How would I move on? Was it okay to move on? It was too early to know the sex of the baby, but in my heart I believe it was a little girl. I grieved in my own way and looked online for message boards and support groups — never participating, just being a silent observer and taking comfort that while I felt lonely, I was not alone. This is where I learned about the term ‘rainbow baby.’ In June 2015, I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. It was a surreal feeling. Everyday felt like I was walking on eggshells. I knew nothing I could do could cause a miscarriage or prevent it — and that became my mantra that I repeated everyday until our big ultrasound. Like our son, Cameron, who will be 3 years old in May, we wanted the baby’s gender to be a surprise, so we waited — but we did find out that the baby was perfectly healthy. My sister-in-law Jenna made me a beautiful headband with rainbow flowers from her Etsy shop, Maizy Sue. I was so touched that she would help us honor our rainbow baby in this way. At 39 weeks and one day, I began having contractions and we went to the hospital — that night, I heard my husband, Matt, say, ‘It’s a girl!’ When we went to Charlotte’s newborn photo session with Jen, I pulled out the headband and explained that little Charlotte was a rainbow baby. Jen was inspired and created this beautiful piece of artwork that we will cherish forever. I am incredibly touched by the positive responses we’ve received online, but ultimately I just want women who’ve experienced miscarriage to know that they aren’t alone and that there is a promise of hope after a storm. And while every woman and health situation is different, there is hope for their rainbow baby to arrive healthy and strong.” —Cathy Matthews
“My midwife bought the rainbow stamp pad just thinking it would be fun to have the colors, instead of the usual boring black ink. She found cute scrapbook paper and pressed his huge flippers onto the page. Everyone that attended my birth signed the paper and it is still hanging in my son’s room. It wasn’t until later that I heard people saying that ‘rainbow babies’ are births after a miscarriage. I had two miscarriages before this son. But what made this birth even more special is that it was the most amazing home water birth, after two cesareans. He truly was my shining rainbow after a few storms and completed our family perfectly.” —Robynn Whiting
“I had always known I was put on this earth to be a mother. So, on New Year’s Eve 2014, when those two little pink lines appeared on a home pregnancy test, I was filled with more joy and excitement than I have ever experienced in my whole life. A new year with a new baby to look forward to! My husband and I confirmed the news with the doctor and sure enough, a baby was growing inside me. Too early to hear the heartbeat, we scheduled another appointment the following week. That night we celebrated. One week later, we went to the doctor’s office, anxious and excited to hear our baby’s heartbeat for the very first time. When I didn’t hear the beautiful lub-dub sound that I was expecting, I looked to my doctor for some kind of explanation. He just looked me in the eye and said, ‘I’m so sorry, there is no heartbeat.’ My heart sank and the next thing I knew I was scheduling a D&C when moments earlier I was thinking of names for my baby. We had already chosen Skylar if it was a girl. The months following my miscarriage were hard. I cried a lot and felt like my dreams of becoming of mother would never come true. What did I do wrong? Could it have been prevented? Why me? I soon learned how common missed miscarriages are. People just don’t often talk about them. My husband, Brian and I gave ourselves some time to heal and eventually decided to try again. I was so afraid it wouldn’t happen or something would go wrong. Then, after only one month of trying and countless prayers, I found myself taking a home pregnancy test once again. There were those beautiful pink lines — it was positive once again. We scheduled another appointment with our doctor and waited again to hear our baby’s heartbeat. July 14, 2015 rolled around and we headed to the doctor’s office for the much anticipated appointment. I was a nervous wreck, but thankfully, my husband was there to hold my hand and reassure me we were in this together. The doctor came in and the next thing I knew we were listening to the sweetest, most beautiful sound I have ever heard. My baby had a heartbeat! Tears of joy filled my eyes. In the months to follow we learned we were having a girl. My Skylar. We had a pretty easy pregnancy and labor and then she was here, my rainbow baby! I have never felt happier or more in love than I did the day my daughter was born. My whole world changed that day, just as it did the day I suffered a miscarriage. I thank my lucky stars every day for blessing me with such a beautiful, healthy baby girl. I also believe everything happens for a reason, and without the rain, there would never be rainbows.” —Melissa Hurdus
“Although I didn’t have a miscarriage, my husband and I struggled with infertility. After undergoing IVF, we were blessed with two beautiful miracle babies. To all the women out there dealing with infertility, or a miscarriage, don’t lose hope. Miracles happen everyday and you have to experience a storm to get to your rainbow.” —Helene Power
“After we lost our son, I heard Ellen Degeneres say, ‘When your heart is broken, when it has cracks in it, it lets the light in.’ I held onto that hope every anxious minute of my rainbow pregnancy. The moment Whitney was born, my heart was filled with her. She is my rainbow. She is my light!” —Nina Lockard
“We lost BryNisa, on June 17, 2013, due to a cord accident, when I was 38 weeks pregnant. Then, in December 2013, we found out that we were expecting our rainbow baby. I was excited, although really scared throughout the pregnancy. The doctors and I decided that we should get this rainbow baby out before 38 weeks to be on the safer side. June 31, 2014 was my C-section day. I was so full of joy to hold my son KyShawn in my arms. KyShawn is now 20-months-old and an absolutely happy and silly toddler.” —Bianca Nichols
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