Following God’s Intent Builds Strong Relationships And Happy Marriages
Tim Tebow’s is being making fun of due to the fact that he wants to abstain from sex until marriage. But the reason why he is willing to hold back temptation is something you need to read about.
Today’s dating scene is anything but innocent. Sex is now a normal thing for a first date. Many people out there feel that they need to “test the waters” before they try to fully commit. It is a trend that transitioned into a normality and nothing could be further than what God had planned out for us.
If the thought of having sex before marriage seems distasteful to you, you are not alone. There are many out there that are saving themselves for when the thought is right. We are not talking about virginity. There are many of God’s followers today that have turned away from their wrong doings and are looking to better their lives with God. Christian courtship offers those people a new alternative to traditional dating.
Christian Courtship Basic Principles:
1. Limits And Boundaries Are A Must.
Set limits with the person you are dating according to bible principles. Do not go over those boundaries by any means. Please, try not to look at this as a set of rules but instead, see it as a way to honor God. Remember that those limits were put into place for your own protection. STD’s, unwanted pregnancies are just some of the things you’d be avoiding.
2. Before Committing To Someone Else, Make Sure Your Purpose Is Clear.
Take the time to get to know yourself. Your single years are like training before you head into a relationship. Do you like being by yourself? Do you know what you like about yourself? Take the time to seek God in every decision that you make while you are single. It will benefit you tenfold when it’s time for you to take responsibility for someone else.
How many are my iniquities and sins? Make known to me my rebellion and my sin.”- Job 13:23
3. Seek To Strengthen Your Spirituality Before Anything Else.
If you have a strong sense of spirituality, everything else will be a bit more simple. Strengthen your spirituality by reading the scriptures every day.
4. Seek Biblical Help For Dating.
The bible offers much help when it comes to dating. It does warn about the people who you shouldn’t commit to. These are the people that are not strong willed. The bible does want you to find the right one according to Proverbs 31:30
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
5. Make Sure Both Of You “Click” Spiritually.
It is easy to have physical chemistry since temptation is found anywhere. But it is a rare thing to find spiritual chemistry with the person you want to pursue. Both of your spiritual values and goals should be the same, they should all align with God’s values and beliefs.
He has told you, O man, what is good; And what does the LORD require of you But to do justice, to love kindness, And to walk humbly with your God?- Micha 6:8
6. Assume Your Role In The Relationship.
The man will always be viewed as the protector and provider; while the woman will always be viewed as the strength revivor and the healer. Whatever you both may bring to the table, always give your half into the relationship.
7. Focus Your Attention.
Safeguard your heart. Not every person that crosses your path is a potential husband or wife. If you start to become desperate and sad that you’re 33 and STILL haven’t found someone, the idea of finding the right one becomes more of an idol in your life. Trust in God that he will bring him and his timing will be perfect.
8. Make Most Of Your Singleness.
Enjoy these days while you can, because remember that once you are committed you’re no longer living for yourself. Everything you do should be in the consideration of your other half.
9. Put Your Total Trust In God And Let Him Lead.
You don’t know God’s plans, so stop trying to cut in front of the line! There is a time and place for everything, trust in him that he will lead you to everlasting life for you and your soul mate.
The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, My God, my rock, in whom I take refuge; My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. I call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised, And I am saved from my enemies. -Psalm 18: 2-3
10. Uphold Your Believes And Keep Them At The Highest Standard.
There are people out there that will think you’re weird because you won’t have sex until you’re married. Those critics have become desensitized by today’s low standards. Keep living for God and don’t be afraid to show it!