Although these are not rules or regulations, they are truths about you and marriage that ARE NOT taught in church or in Bible school. It is important to keep a steady biblical study of the scriptures, just as much as applying them to your everyday life.
1. Not Everyone Will Be Married In Their Lifetime.
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. – Romans 12: 1-2
It is only natural to feel the need to be close to someone in a more personal way – it is the desire to be married in union with the love of their life. The truth is that not everyone will get married in their lifetime. There has been a severe amount of pressure put on Christians to get married and have a relationship within their lifetime, that when it does not become a realization, it is viewed as being unsuccessful in life. The truth is, God does not call everyone into marriage. Everyone has their purpose, and sometimes that purpose is to serve God instead serving reproductive needs.
2. A Spouse Is Not Meant To Complete You, Only Jesus Christ Will Achieve That.
Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me. – John 14: 6
One person will not complete you. We have been instilled with a picture of how a prince charming will take care of you and all your needs. We have been branded with an image of how your princess will bring you everlasting happiness. This just isn’t true! The purpose of your spouse is not to complete you, but rather, to complement you. The only being that will ever successfully complete you is Jesus Christ himself!
Continuing to have unrealistic expectations of what your spouse should be like or look like, will only bring forth disappointment and frustration. Remember, only God will fulfill the most important need a man or woman will ever have- the need to become spiritually close to God.
3. Some Will Have More Than One “Loves” In Their Lifetime.
A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. – 1 Corinthians 7:39
Do soul mates really exist? It is unclear where the idea of having a soulmate originated from, but one thing is for sure – it is NOT a biblical teaching. In fact, referring to your spouse are your soulmate lessens the importance and emphasis on the relationship you have with God. One thing you must keep an open mind of is the fact that God works in mysterious ways. The reality is that one person might spend his/her life with more than one other person.
God forbid your loved one dies, would you consider remarrying later on in life? If you do choose to remarry, that’s okay! Widows reserve a special place in God’s heart, as he knows the pain of losing loved ones first-hand.
Then for those who have not married or are widowed, have you ever asked yourself these questions?
What if God is hinting me to find an imperfect person that will draw me closer to Him? What if God is using me to bring my spouse closer to Him? What if God wants me to marry a person with flaws that will expose mine?
Evangelical Minister Gary Thomas, puts this in words perfectly.
“In 1 Corinthians 7, the apostle Paul tells women (widows, in particular) to seriously consider singleness, but assures them the choice of whether to get married is up to them, and then specifically says women can marry “whomever they wish” as long as their potential husband is ‘in the Lord.’ (v. 39) If the Bible explicitly says, ‘it’s your call whether or not to get married’ (a sentiment Jesus echoes when he says some “choose” to become eunuchs—celibate—in Matthew 19:12, with emphasis on the word “choose”) and it’s entirely your choice as to who to marry, why should your subjective feelings and reasoning override living by the truth of Scripture?”
Otherwords, God is giving you the choice to marry or not to marry. So God might have brought a person near to you not to maybe not to marry but to help them find God.
But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. – Corinthians 7:15
With these questions, God is with you to help you answer them. You know in your heart what He wants you to do.