Unfortunately, the divorce rate in America, is at 50%, and no-fault divorce makes it easier for couples to seek it out, because as the name states, the reason can be groundless. Divorce and remarriage is quite easily available, unfortunately. Yet when couples marry, they commit to one another that it’ll be for better or for worse, never imagining that their marriage will result in a heart-wrenching decision to separate, permanently. So if a couple is truly in love, what factors come into play that’ll turn that dream of eternal bliss, into an unfathomable nightmare of despair? Well, outside factors more often than not, come into play; whether it’s a third party; financial constraints; illnesses; a child’s death . . . whatever the reason, when a couple finds themselves contemplating the dissolution of their marriage, that’s when turning to God, is of most importance.
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God’s plan is for couples to remain in their covenant for all eternity; so working to achieve the success of your marriage has to be a priority throughout your marriage, and if finding yourself in circumstances that bring confusion to your life is more frequent, then fall to your knees and pray.
If you are trying to live a Christian life, shouldn’t God’s Word be the ultimate factor in determining what is right from wrong?
2 Timothy 3:16-17 (KJV)
16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:
17 That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.
Are there any scriptural grounds for divorce?
Matthew 5:31-32 (KJV)
31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause for fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Clearly, God’s Word indicates that the only grounds for dissolution of marriage is fornication or adultery. Any other reason is contrary to His will.
Read the aforementioned scripture in the following format:
If ____________ (you) divorces __________ (his wife), except for fornication, and marries another, _________________ (you) commits adultery; and whoever marries ___________ (her who is divorced) commits adultery.
Does this not bring God’s will into perspective? When replacing your and your spouse’s name into the scripture, it gives a clear message that is quite grievous. So, a man that divorces his wife for any reason, besides fornication, will in turn cause her and her future husband to commit adultery.
Romans 7:2-3 (KJV)
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 (KJV)
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
A woman is bound by law to her first husband, while he lives, regardless of whether or not they are legally divorced. However, once her first husband passes away, then she is free to remarry without guilt. God has a clear will for couples that choose to marry, so being aware of His Word, will help in guiding us to have the life that He so desires for us.
God is the Creator of the Universe and His ways are unlike ours. As humans, we don’t always understand all things, so searching scripture, in order to fully comprehend His reasons for His will, is a must. Why is the second marriage prohibited, and why is it considered “adultery”, when one’s first spouse is still living, despite having a letter of divorce?
Matthew 19:3-9 (KJV)
3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Regardless of man’s laws, God’s will supercedes everything, and it always will. Perhaps, we may not fully grasp or even agree with it; but disregarding His will for our lives, will not make it acceptable in the eyes of God. Man may be willing to embrace divorce and even encourage it to others, when we believe that it may be a solution to one’s circumstances, but if it does not fall within the guidelines that God has set forth, then any actions will be contrary to His will for our lives!
So, since God only views the first covenant as sacred, then a second marriage while a first spouse is still living, will constitute adultery when married to the second spouse.
Since God’s only exception in seeking a dissolution of marriage is the cause of fornication, a couple should always work hand in hand in making their marriage to be the beautiful blessing that God intended it to be. Remember that the only one that is granted the right to a divorce settlement and remarriage is the one that has been betrayed by their companion. Your marriage can and will flourish, as long as God is the foundation of your life; so never give up on your spouse! If you both have the same goal in mind, there is nothing that you cannot accomplish as one.